I came across the graphic displayed here on my FB newsfeed. I responded with this "Forgiveness is for yourself. If a person can't be truly remorseful, you don't want to put yourself in the situation to keep getting hurt. Sometimes you just gotta walk away."
I believe each situation is different and that you have to weigh the pros and cons. Is the relationship worth it to you? Is it going to serve you and the other person to continue it? Is the offense going to be brought up again and again? Are you going to think about it all the time?
Sometimes it does take some time to forget about what has happened and sometimes it'll come back to bite you in the ass. But I have learned that I read way too much into situations, diagnosed them to death and spent too much time trying to understand why it happened and wanting to know all the details.
When you get to the point of "who the fuck cares," you feel better about it AND yourself. Don't allow another persons hurtful words or actions control how you feel about a situation... those feelings end up being directed at yourself enabling you to feel like shit. It is not worth it. Pick your ass up and kick it into gear! When I'm feeling any self loathing I try to take a few minutes to meditate/ponder on the root of my feelings. I've had some great success incorporating some essential oils- "Clarity" is my new found favorite. It's been a helpful tool in clarifying my thoughts and intentions.
Anyhow, it is NOT egotistical to love yourself, if you don't love yourself first you can't truly love anyone else. I always think of that in flight safety scenario of putting your mask on yourself first so that you have the ability to help someone else get the oxygen too. Self love really is as vital as oxygen is to the body.
I believe each situation is different and that you have to weigh the pros and cons. Is the relationship worth it to you? Is it going to serve you and the other person to continue it? Is the offense going to be brought up again and again? Are you going to think about it all the time?
Sometimes it does take some time to forget about what has happened and sometimes it'll come back to bite you in the ass. But I have learned that I read way too much into situations, diagnosed them to death and spent too much time trying to understand why it happened and wanting to know all the details.
When you get to the point of "who the fuck cares," you feel better about it AND yourself. Don't allow another persons hurtful words or actions control how you feel about a situation... those feelings end up being directed at yourself enabling you to feel like shit. It is not worth it. Pick your ass up and kick it into gear! When I'm feeling any self loathing I try to take a few minutes to meditate/ponder on the root of my feelings. I've had some great success incorporating some essential oils- "Clarity" is my new found favorite. It's been a helpful tool in clarifying my thoughts and intentions.
Anyhow, it is NOT egotistical to love yourself, if you don't love yourself first you can't truly love anyone else. I always think of that in flight safety scenario of putting your mask on yourself first so that you have the ability to help someone else get the oxygen too. Self love really is as vital as oxygen is to the body.